The Challenges And Difficulties Of Raising Children With Affection
This is because, in Western societies like ours, productivity and independence are glorified. And putting these concepts into practice conflicts with a baby’s natural (and normal) needs.
Difficulties in raising children with affection
Thus, in a society based on efficiency where possessions and appearances are more important than happiness, when a mother makes the effort to raise with affection she also has to face countless difficulties. Below we will list some of them:
strict clinical protocols
Research your hospital’s protocols and the support they provide for breastfeeding; you can ask that your baby be delivered to you immediately at birth, that he sleeps in the same room as you, and that he not give you formula without your permission. Above all, don’t let them decide for you.
short maternity leave
We often have to make the decision to stop working for a while to take care of our children. Other times we need to keep working in order to live. However, there are many restrictions that do not allow us to reconcile our personal and professional life as we would like.
Leaving our child in someone else’s care is not the easiest of decisions. But sometimes there is no other option; so, first of all, know that your baby will also feel the separation. Therefore, you should give as much affection as possible when you get home from work to make up for your absence.
Loss of confidence in one’s abilities
After repeatedly hearing that your milk is not enough, that you spend a lot of time with your child on your lap, that he cries for being pampered, that if you continue to allow him to sleep with you, he will become a dependent adult and others opinions about how you should care for your baby, it is to be expected that you will lose confidence in yourself and in your decisions.
But think about it: can mankind suddenly not survive without formula, bottles, pacifiers, car seats and any other system that intends to replace the mother’s body? If you have difficulties, find out more and seek help if you think it’s necessary. Always follow your maternal instincts, you are the best solution for your child’s discomfort.
Your own doubts and insecurities
Even when you listen to your maternal instincts and maintain your self-confidence, doubts will surface. After all, being a mother is not easy . It’s a big responsibility, so it’s normal that you sometimes wonder if you’re doing it right. It is these doubts that will allow you to evaluate yourself and, in this way, improve in certain aspects.
Constant disapproval for your way of creating
Often, and perhaps with the best of intentions, family and friends saturate the new mother with advice and recommendations, thereby lowering her confidence. A mother busy listening to everyone around her cannot concentrate on getting to know her baby and learning to decipher its signals.
While for most people you are raising weak children, actually raising with affection will give your child the emotional security needed to be an independent, self-esteeming adult.
your own childhood wounds
Your wounds are related to the way you were brought up, and that is the greatest difficulty of all . Being a mother offers a unique opportunity to discover ourselves, to once again explore our childlike soul. Take care of your wounds, forgive and continue. Raising your child with the value of respect and understanding allows your inner child to be accepted, respected and understood.
Don’t forget that being a parent is a daily learning experience and that everyone makes mistakes. To create with affection is to create with love, and nothing that is done with and from love is wrong.
