My Son Became The Big Brother my

An older brother is an inseparable companion with whom we share blood. It is the person who always goes ahead to facilitate our path.

My son became the eldest brother. Not long ago he was the most irresponsible in the house, the one who always needed to be guided . A few months ago, however, he is much more grown up.
He is now the oldest child and, as such, he feels responsible for his little brother.

How beautiful to see him play his role as a brother!

Mom, the same thing happened to you, because you were a mother for the second time. You must be going through something like that.

At I’m Mom we invite you to share these emotions.

the role of the older brother

My younger brother’s older brother, the one who stands up just a few centimeters off the ground, feels that:

• You have the duty to take care of the baby who sleeps in the crib

• After the adults in the family, he rules the house
• It no longer needs our supervision and requires more independence.

He’s a little bit right about that.

The point is that, at least during childhood, the older sibling is a guide for the younger and means a great help to the parents.
It is easier for him to communicate with his brother. This is so true that sometimes he can convince his brother when Mom and Dad can’t.
As both are children we could say that they speak the same “language”.

The importance of the role of firstborn for the child

Shortly after his brother’s arrival, the firstborn realizes that the little one, the one who crawls around the house, feels some sympathy for him. Who is happy when he arrives and cries when he leaves. The little one prefers to play together and imitates the eldest in everything.

For the older child, this situation encourages her to be more mature than she really is, and to want to behave as if she were an adult.

She realizes that her presence, opinions, and everything she does have some bearing on the other child. For that reason, he feels he must lead by example.

Being the older sibling entails a lot of responsibility and that responsibility contributes to the child’s emotional maturity.

Mistakes that parents make after their second child arrives

When we give our son a brother, the family gains another member and, with him, the changes in the house become evident.

If with the birth of the first-born and its arrival at home, routines, lifestyles, living conditions and decorations have changed, when another child is added to the family, the precautions are no less.

So far so good. The older child even feels happy to participate in the changes that will take place in the house and obeys the new rules without any problems.

The setbacks come later.

When the baby comes home, all family members immediately start living for it.

Time, once allotted to a child, now needs to be split in two. In this case, the older child, being more independent, needs less supervision.

He walks, runs, knows how to speak to express his needs, annoyances and desires. Eat and shower alone. Anyway, at first sight Mom and Dad are no longer essential.

But be careful! This idea can lead the family to make a fatal mistake: paying more attention to the younger child and neglecting the older one.

Another mistake parents make is to ask, and even demand, that their older sibling take care of their younger siblings and even sacrifice their playtime.

As a third mistake, and no less significant, one can list the cruel reality of parents comparing their children.

This practice arouses jealousy, provokes fights and creates an unfavorable environment between siblings.

What does an older brother mean?

An older brother is just as important as having a father and a mother.

Even if the parents are the ones who care for, educate, and meet the needs, the role of siblings is not far from that.

An older brother is a guide, an example to follow, the confidant of all mischief. It is he who always knows what to do and what to say.

He is the role model to imitate, the one who has been through the same setbacks and has enough experience to deal with the mistakes made.

It means unparalleled support, the person who will always be willing to reach out. The faithful companion.

Big brother means respect, security and trust.

My son has become the eldest brother… Congratulations!