My Body Was Your Nest And Will Remain As Long As You Want
My body was her nest, her shelter, her temporary home for nine months.
We are sure that more than one mother or father who reads us now misses those days when their baby needed their closeness so much. From those months when our little one “nestled” in her lap with whispering breath, with her hot sobs, with her tiny hand holding one of our fingers tightly.
These days pass quickly, we know, almost like a sigh, like a wind that comes and leaves your memory.
However, our body, our proximity, continues to be necessary and essential until well after the age of 3, at which time, according to specialists, exogestation or this extrauterine development ends.
In “I’m Mommy”, we want to talk about that, about the need to continue to be your physical refuge after pregnancy. In short, the need to make our cervix and our skin a layer of protection where the baby feels safe to grow optimally, happily.
My body will be your home as long as you want
Children are wise and know what their basic needs are. Our obligation is therefore to understand and manage them properly.
It doesn’t matter that our little one is 3 or 4 years old and asks us “I want a lap”. This moment of pampering – sometimes no more than 5 minutes – offers comfort, comfort and helps the little one to feel loved, returning later to their games with full intensity.
We are aware that sometimes it is difficult, that they weigh more and more, that sometimes we have to set aside our tasks to carry them on our lap while they tell us their things, while seeking our complicity just when we are in a hurry or have more tasks to do.
However, remember:
those days of wanting to be on your lap go by pretty fast. So why not take advantage of them?
Hold it close to your body, take it everywhere with you
The baby is born with an underdeveloped brain. Your neural connections represent only 25% of what you can achieve in adulthood.
However, there is a fact that we should not neglect: during the first 3 or 4 years of life, its maximum potential will be, almost 1,000 billion neural connections.
We should take advantage of this step, and for that, there is nothing better than carrying the baby close to your body as long as possible and, obviously, reasonable and adequate.
So, for example, if you are a working mom and have no choice but to be away from your baby for a few hours, don’t hesitate to do the following:
- When you get home from work, pick your baby up and put him in your body.
- Take it with you everywhere and allow free access to your breasts.
- Almost without realizing it, your little one will not have as much anxiety when you go to work.
- In this way, he will know how to wait and, at the same time, by placing it close to his body, he will continue to encourage this exogestation.
My body was your nest and it will always be as long as you need it
Once our little ones are 6 or 7 years old, their lives will be taken more as protagonists, their peers, schoolmates will appear, where they will share games and new experiences.
The world becomes wider before your eyes and, somehow, it seems that we are no longer so essential.
However, never entertain such thoughts. Because a mother or father is always essential for your child.
They are your roots, the people who will always guide you, who will always speak with a sincere and close language, who will always wish for the best and seek at every moment to give you the best, a piece of sky or a piece of star if necessary.
So, don’t hesitate, if from the beginning you allowed your proximity to always be a home, your body to be that little piece of nest where you can take a nap, erase your fears or comfort your tears, surely when your child is 10, 12 or 20 years will thank you.
Always hug him just to remind him that “everything will be fine”, “that he is special”, “that there is no problem that has no solution” and that “he will always be loved”.
