How Should The Family’s Emotional Attachment Be?

Before the age of 5,  children form an affectionate relationship with a person who is sensitive and receptive, this is what we know as emotional attachment. This figure allows for an adequate development with regard to the social and emotional sphere. The main person with whom this bond is formed is the mother, because babies cling to a person who can provide them with security and well-being.

Thereafter, this bond will generate skills so that the child is safe and able to create interpersonal relationships. Over time, experiences were developed that will determine how the relationship with others will be. This can occur within the family and group of partners, adapting the resources that were provided to be happy.

What is emotional attachment?

In psychology they call emotional attachment the affective bond that is established between a child and his parents from the first years of his life. This, in addition to protection and safety, helps children to develop their personality and ability to form bonds. Likewise, it starts a process of living with others around you, something necessary to be able to learn, work, love, and raise your own family.

Everything will depend on the figure of affection, that is, on the person with whom the child establishes a bond. Therefore, when it is not produced correctly, it will not have the same results.

According to psychologist John Bowlby, the child is able to nurture the relationship with his attachment figure. This in order to feel safe and be able to continue learning with her. It points out that for this to happen, in the process of positive attachment, there must be three essential elements:

• Tuning. It’s the connection between parents and their child; understanding no need to speak
• Through attunement it is possible for families to balance their bodily, mental and emotional states.
• The integration between the relationship between children and adults forms an interpersonal bond and with oneself.

Why is it important to be emotionally attached to the family?

As parents, it’s important that we open up emotionally to our children. When they see that we are expressing our feelings, they will not feel intimidated. The advantages of this theme are that children can demonstrate closeness in their relationship with others. They show themselves more understanding in difficult times and above all with great confidence.

Spending as much time as possible with our children is essential, it will show them that they are a priority. In addition, they will  understand that being part of the family will involve sharing the good and bad times. It is also important to look for a way to discipline in a positive way so that the child learns without trauma.

Attachment is a deep affective relationship that is important to a child’s development. It allows the relationship with its surroundings for many reasons. In the same way that we feel the need to eat or breathe, both children and adults also need to be attached to other people. It is important that they love and protect them to feel security, confidence and self-esteem. This will have a great influence on your behavior in the future.

Ways that emotional attachment presents itself

The forms of attachment we’ll show you next demonstrate that emotional development can be good or bad. Depending on the attachment characteristics, the child can be very secure or have negative effects on his personality.

• A safe child. This form demonstrates that the bond, whether with the parents or the caregiver, reacts in an appropriate way according to the child’s needs, and will result in a preference for proximity. This can lead you to protest the absence of the person you are attached to. However, he can  be comforted by people who may be in the family circle when he feels his own security.
• An anxious child. It is a very common result, because some parents overprotect their child affect them. Not allowing her to take on challenges that might give her independence prevents her from developing her security. You may not feel able to take risks in the absence of your parents.
• A disorganized child. This behavior is very negative, it is even a form of child abuse that is produced by not having emotional attachment. It happens as a product of the need for attachment to the desired person. This happens when abuse takes place, resulting in a confused child. Often contradictory behaviors and insecurity are observed when relating to the people around them.